Best man duties
15 June 2017/ Wedding
Duties of the best man
Best Man Duties
The buck’s party
For better or for worse, the groom’s stag party fate is in your hands. It falls on you to give him a send-off from singledom that he’ll never forget. You don’t have to pay for it yourself —invitees should pitch in or pay their own way—just to make it happen… and make sure he comes out the other side in one piece.
As things start to come together, consider yourself ‘on call’ to pitch in with any groom-related tasks, from choosing cummerbunds to sourcing DJs. Organise the groomsmen, making sure they’re properly equipped, have somewhere to stay and aware of any jobs required of them. Also make sure they have the right coloured socks for the day! Usually white socks are not the go under a black suit!
The wedding day
You might be hanging out with the groom on the morning of the wedding helping him with last minute chores. Things like dry cleaning and shoe shining should have been dispensed with days ago. At any rate, you’ll want to be wherever he is—home, hotel—a good two to three hours before kick off to help him get his act together and dress. The groomsmen should also be present and accounted for. Make sure everyone is in the car and at the venue 20-30 minutes ahead of time. Oh, and for god’s sake, make sure you’ve got the rings.
At the ceremony
Stick with the groom and help greet guests as they arrive. Keep an eye on the main man lest he needs water, Nurofen or a nip of whiskey for his nerves. At the altar you’ll be his right hand man, poised beside him to produce the bride’s ring at just the right moment. Repeat: make sure you’ve got the rings… and that they’re easy to extract from your pocket when required. Immediately afterwards, you’ll need to act as a witness, autograph the marriage certificate. You may also be required to slip the celebrant their payment on behalf of the groom. Post-ceremony, the photographer will want to get snaps of the main players so hang around and make sure the other groomsmen do too. No slipping off to see what the footy score is!
At the reception
By the time you arrive with the wedding party, the other guests will be ready to be seated while you all have a drink. When the crowd is settled, the party is presented to the room, takes their seat and dinner is served. Once main course is cleared, the MC will get the toasts rolling. Traditionally, best man speaks last but nothing is set in stone—that’s up to the couple. Along with the MC, you are in charge of the reception so the newlyweds don’t have to be. Over the course of the night you may be needed to deal with any behind-the-scenes drama (the cake’s been dropped!) or reign in guests who over do it on the champagne.
Yes, you will need to keep it together and not drink too much so that you’re coherent at the end of the night. It’s up to you to get the gifts and loot from the reception to the newlyweds (pre-arrange where and how, especially if they’re honeymooning immediately) and make sure the venue is cleared. You may be called on to drive the couple to their next destination (airport, hotel?)… or at least provide an alternative.
The day after
If suits have been hired for you or the groom, make sure they’re returned on time.
Thanks to Essential Groom for this informative article!